Posts Tagged ‘adulthood’

Quotable Quotes for Breakfast?

Marso 22, 2012

I hear people say this a lot:

“Breakfast is the most important meal of the day.”

And I believe it, so that for the whole 21 years of my life, I try so hard not to leave the house without eating this “very important meal”. I even remember that when my siblings and I were still students, my mother used to wake up early in the morning to prepare food before we leave for school. “Prepare” here is actually synonymous to “heating”, as our meals usually consist of rice and last night’s ulam with  hot pandesal and if we are indeed lucky, there would also be scrambled eggs. My day sure didn’t feel complete without my daily almusal. Parang laging gutom, hilo, di makapag-isip ng maayos. I don’t know. It helped me last through the day even without another “proper” meal (as during this time, I would often spend my lunch allowance for school requirements and projects). So I loved breakfasts!

But this morning I realized something else. Just like any other activity that involves food, things get more interesting when you get to share it with someone who has got a lot of interesting things to say. (Or probably it’s the other way around? Things get more interesting when there’s food involved? I don’t know. I don’t really care if my statement doesn’t make sense. I just have to make things sound coherent para maikonekta ko yung tungkol sa quotable quotes. hehehe)

I had one such breakfast earlier. Leaving home in a hurry so as not to be late for work, I decided to skip breakfast and planned to take it the moment I arrive in school (I am a teacher so the school is my workplace). After, dropping my bag, I got my baon went to the lounge and looked for a vacant seat. The only one available was a seat next to Mrs. Q, (that’s how most people in the faculty room call her), one of the most experienced (and feared) teachers that we have in the faculty. Having left with no choice, I sat next to her, catching the entire conversation she was currently having with 3 more teachers.

From what I understood, they were talking about how, despite hearing all the issues with the school’s administration (backgrounder: maraming issues sa school eh, most of them concerning the administration and their “indecisiveness” when it comes to issues involving school rules and the faculty. Even faculty rooms have politics you know. ), she was able to put up with the system and managed to stay for 25 years!

I wish I could write everything she mentioned earlier, but I had a spoon and a fork in my right and left hands, respectively, where there should have been a pen and a post-it. So i will just enumerate those that I memorized right there and then.

  • Accountability is two-way.” (talking about bosses who always blame their subordinates)
  • When something is wrong you should know how to stand up, to effect change. Otherwise, we’ll be doing the same mistakes over and over. “(for those who do not want to speak up in fear of losing their jobs)
  • Kami naman aalis na dito eh. Kayo na yan. Yung mga pagsasalita ko pag meeting, para sa inyo yun. Because I love this institution. You know people, they come and go. But the school remains.”(still on how employees should feel empowered )
  • “At the end of the day, it’s just a job. No hard feelings. We are all professionals here.Hindi kasi ako emotional na tao eh” (for those who take it personally when they’re given memos or are reprimanded by immediate bosses )
  • “One must have self-honesty. Alam mo dapat. You should not accept a job where you can’t do well. You will just shortchange your subordinates.” (about people who are not qualified to be in their positions)
  • After that line, I got lost in the conversation. I was no longer sure if she was still talking about the faculty and the administrators or something else.
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Of Exam Schedules and Farewells

Marso 21, 2012

I just want to share this conversation I had with one of my students earlier through an exchange of messages on FB.

The day before, this student had asked me if she could possibly take the final exams in Statistics earlier than the scheduled date and time, since she was exempted from taking the exams in the other subjects she supposedly had to take on the same day. I told her that I had to refer the matter to my coordinator to see if a special arrangement could be done for her. Not being able to meet her that afternoon, I just requested a classmate of her to tell her the office’s decision that unfortunately, the original plan would still be followed.

Then she sent me a private message on FB.

A.S. (her initials):

Hi sir,
Almeda told me that I should come early tom so that I’d take the Statistics exam early. Where should I go for me to take the test?
Sir, thank you for a great year  I’m sorry if I’m starting to fail your subject..  I’ve been having problems with stat :S 😐

ME:

Is that what he told you? Sorry I think he misunderstood my statement. I actually told him that I can’t give you the test earlier than the others so you still have to take it with the rest of the class on the scheduled time. I asked my coordinator about your case but he said that we can’t do anything but follow the original schedule. Sorry.

ME:

And regarding your performance in my subject, well, it’s not the first time I’ve heard somebody say something like that so it’s all good. I have to admit that when I was still learning Statistics, I also had a little difficult understanding it. And you know, if it’s any consolation for me to say this, you’re doing fine. In fact, better than I remember I ever did the time I took it in college. Just like any math related subject, the key here is practice. And try rereading your notes! It might help. I know you’ll do well. As always.

ME:

And your class is awesome! The roughly 9 months we’ve been together is indeed something I will never forget. It’s been a year of significant learning for everyone. I may come off as very strict and/or very annoying sometimes with my constant reminders (or my morning homily as your classmates would like to call it) but this is brought about by the pressure of guiding you throughout your sophomore year. I probably overdid it at times, but my intention and prime objective is to keep you on the right track, similar to what a parent always hopes for his children. It is actually my dream that in the future, if you have problems to overcome or important decisions to make, you will look back on your past and you would find something helpful that you have learned in your sophomore year. All the best to my 2G!. 

Why would I want to share something like this?

First, because I liked her humility. This student was an achiever in class, and acknowledging that she is having difficulty in my subject just made me admire her more. This for me is a sign of wisdom, maturity at a very young age. Honestly, I would not have admitted the same thing if I were her age as that was a time when I was too proud of myself and my petty achievements.

Second, I have always had issues with telling people how I feel. At least if I had to tell it to them face to face. I find it more comfortable writing things down. Writing gives me more time to think about what to tell the other person, to choose the right words, to capture the right emotion. And it’s actually ironic if you come to think of it since my profession requires me to talk to people everyday. I have not gotten used to it yet. I’m not really sure if I’d even get to that point when I could say that I am perfectly comfortable with carrying out a conversation with someone.

Day 2 of Blogging and Fears of the Future.

Marso 18, 2012

Surfing the internet for blogs to follow, I stumbled upon 2 blogs authored by people in their 20’s. I was surprised how similar our current views are about the world, particularly the fear of owning up to adult responsibilities. I don’t know. I am in my early twenties (specifically 21, turning a year older a few weeks as of this writing) but i feel older.I don’t really understand teenage behavior now, the way I knew I would have understood it a year, or two ago. Since graduating from college and starting work, my whole take on life has completely changed. I was actually doing a self-assessment days ago asking myself if I had always been like this. Well modesty aside, I am definitely more mature than most of the people I met in high school and in college but I had never thought of life and what lies ahead the way that I am seeing things now. I don’t really like to think that it’s a bad thing, and that it’s something permanent. I am crossing my fingers that just like teenage angst, this is but a phase that goes with my transition to adulthood. But it is certainly scary just thinking about the responsibilities I have to perform once I fully accept the fact that I am no longer a teenager. It’s almost like getting into a new world, without any certainty whether I would be able to go back to my previous one.